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“Later that night I held an atlas in my lap 

“Later that night I held an atlas in my lap Ran my fingers across the whole world And whispered Where does it hurt?⠀ It answered: Everywhere⠀⠀
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Warsan Sire⠀
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🌍 Children in China can see a blue sky for the first time in their lives. ⠀
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🌎 People in Delhi can see a skyline that was previously obscured by smog.⠀
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🌏 A small town in Europe is overrun by goats. ⠀
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As human activity has slowed down, nature is giving us plentiful examples of how the way we show up has a impact on this beautiful home we call Earth. ⠀
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We can all do a tiny part in creating a different tomorrow. And we can hope and pray that all those single drops of effort turn into a tsumai of positive change that drenches our Earth and heals it.⠀
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Happy Earth Day dear friends!⠀
How will you show love to our home this year?⠀
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#earthday2020 #earthdayeveryday #earthday🌎

What are my 3 non-negotiable as a mom?⠀ ⠀ 1️

What are my 3 non-negotiable as a mom?⠀
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1️⃣ I will NOT sit in the back with the kids while my husband drives alone. Because⠀
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a) I didn’t want my kids getting used to having mom in the back with them because there are so many times when I’m the driver with no other adult with me.⠀
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b) I value that time with my husband to just chat and hang out.⠀
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c) Sitting in the backseat makes me incredibly car sick.⠀
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2️⃣ I will NOT sleep in a separate room with the baby while my husband sleeps elsewhere. Because⠀
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a) I like my bed.⠀
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b) I think that’s inherently unfair for one parent to do. If he has to be up for work, I have to be up for kids and I didn't make the baby by myself.⠀
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c) Did I mention I like my bed?⠀
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3️⃣ I will NOT eat leftover food from my kid's plate. Because⠀
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a) I believe that after slaving over a hot stove for my family, I deserve a pretty plate of fresh, untouched food⠀
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b) I don’t want my kids getting used to taking more than they can eat⠀
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c) I want to teach them responsibility for their decision- take more food than you can eat- you’ll eat your own leftovers.⠀
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This doesn't make me a better or worse mom than someone who chooses to do these things. It's not a right or wrong quiz.⠀
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We all have non-negotiables in our lives that are borne out of experiences that left indelible marks on our psyche.⠀
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But what my non-negotiables have in common is they stem from my commitment to honor myself as an individual and as part of a couple- beyond my identity as a parent.⠀
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We all LOVE our children. But it is equally important for us to remember that we were an individual before we became parents. And it is so essential that we don't fall in the trap of putting everyone ahead of us and risk experiencing burnout and exhaustion.⠀
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✨You matter, dear friend. Your likes, dislikes, preferences matter. Your wants and your comfort matter.✨⠀
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And you can be an amazing mom and still create healthy boundaries that protect your physical, mental and emotional well-being and let you focus on and nurture other relationships.⠀
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What are your non-negotiables?⠀
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#momlifebelike

How are your friendships doing these days?⠀ ⠀

How are your friendships doing these days?⠀
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If I’m honest- my relationships in general are either suffering or thriving.⠀
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Times of stress can either cement the tiny cracks that previously existed in relationships or they can widen them until they become chasms. And moms, in general, are incredibly stressed out right now with little time, energy or motivation to lessen the widths of the growing gaps.⠀
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So what to do?⠀
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1- Give your friends the benefit of doubt.⠀
Remember how you’re feeling overwhelmed, busy and fall asleep every night wondering where the day went? Your friends are probably going through the same thing.⠀
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✨Remind yourself that it’s not that they’re ignoring you or have forgotten about you but that they’re crazy busy too.⠀
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2- If someone repeatedly shows you they don’t care, believe them.⠀
We all have those friendships where we feel the burden of maintaining the friendship falls on us. And the graveyard of unanswered text messages, missed phone calls and unread DM’s remind us that we don’t matter. This is the time to recognize those relationships and move on.⠀
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✨Holding space for others doesn’t mean leaving ourselves open to sadness- especially these days when our emotional bandwidths are already compromised.⠀
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3- Make an effort.⠀
Yes I know this will take effort. But check in on your friends. Make time every day for a quick call. If you can’t call, send a voice note. If you can’t send a voice note, send a text. Whatever you do, reach out and touch someone.⠀
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✨Not only is this going to help maintain those bonds of friendship and lessen the crushing sense of isolation- it’s also going to remind you that there is life beyond your immediate reality of staying at home.⠀
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4- Don’t forget your bestest friend.⠀
My poor best friend (aka the hubs) also gets the brunt of my stress and bad moods. Quarantine has been hard on most marriages and we are no exception.⠀
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✨Remind yourself that this is hard on both of you and you’re so lucky to have each other to get through this. Take a minute and do something nice for him or each other a break by taking the kids out for a walk.⠀
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What tricks are working for you?

#momstruggles

The behind the scenes of life are messy right now

The behind the scenes of life are messy right now for all of us. ⠀
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Our neatly structured lives and routines have gone out the window to be replaced by a new normal that shifts and changes every single day.⠀
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A few days ago, I was working on a project to record a DIY video. Something that normally takes me an hour took me the whole day. Baby D melted down as I was trying to record the intro. Zaydu came running in being chased by Adam and knocked my lights, tripod (with camera attached) and backdrop stands down. It took too long to get set up again and Adam started getting hungry and whiny.⠀
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I felt like my brain was going to explode. Rather than throw my project out the window, I stomped downstairs near tears, and told my husband I can’t do it anymore. Then I proceeded to make a really angry dinner with lots of pots banging and cabinet doors slamming.⠀
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Why am I telling you this?⠀
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Because I KNOW you have all had this same moment at some point in the last 5 weeks. Where the pressure of balancing kids, home, work, and your other responsibilities becomes too much and you just want to quit.⠀
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Who needs to finish a book? You’ll do it when they’re in college.⠀
Who can be get work done when all these voices are clamoring for your attention?⠀
Some quiet you time in the midst of chaos? A totally impossible feat.⠀
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But here’s the thing- in any given situation, we have the choice to give up or get creative. And one of the best ways to do that is to ask HOW can I make this work for me?⠀
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Instead of banging on pots and saying, why are my kids so needy or why is my life so hard- I started thinking WHAT can I do to get things done these days? And I came up with some creative answers that I'll be sharing in my stories today.⠀
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✨Don’t pause your dreams dear friends. Whether they are work-related, self-care goals, or other aspirations - remember that only you can decide to make them a priority.✨⠀
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What dreams will you get creative with today?⠀
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#socialdistancing #quarantinelife #onwardandupwards

Does anyone else feel like we’re living a real l

Does anyone else feel like we’re living a real life version of the Desert Island game- except our houses are our islands?⠀
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Instead of doing a Friday introduction- cause you all already know who I am right?- I thought we’d have fun and play desert island!!⠀
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The rules are simple. As we are currently stranded in our beautiful and safe homes (I pray), ⠀
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WHAT 3 THINGS COULDN’T YOU LIVE WITHOUT?⠀
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The only thing you can’t say is your phone cause hellooo- none of us could survive without this little device connecting us to the outside world. ⠀
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For me, my three are:⠀
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The Office- cause who else can make you laugh and cringe like Michael Scott or make 😍 like Jim & Pam!⠀
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My Stand Mixer- banana bread, cookies and cakes galore- where would I be without my sugar fix these days!⠀
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Nintendo Switch- cause friends, I love my boys (husband included) but if I had to entertain them 24/7- they’d be the first thing that would end up in the water around my island. ⠀
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Your turn! ⠀
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What are your three desert island must-haves?⠀
Share yours and tag a friend so we can hear all the fun things people can’t live without right now. ⠀
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#desertisland #momlifebelike #pandemic2020 #momofboys⠀
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